Protecting women and girls in sport: a tale of three coaches
I’ve had a lot of thoughts in the wake of the UK Supreme Court’s decision a couple of weeks ago to define women and sex in terms of biology. Others have said better than me that the judgement is transphobic, it will hurt (indeed, has already hurt) people, and that it is a misreading of everything that the Equality Act stands for. Many people—trans and cis—have been protesting the decision, and a judge plans to take the UK to the European Court of Human Rights.
As a human rights expert who started working on legal gender recognition back around 2012, I can say that it is a bad judgement, and I hope that the ECtHR recognises that: but the process will take years. In the meantime, protections against discrimination on the basis of 'transgender status' still exist in the law, but decision-makers are using this ruling to exclude trans people. Toilets—predictably, for anyone who has followed this issue and been exposed to the inherent creepiness of people thinking about the genitalia of the person in the next cubicle—are one area of exclusion. But another area is sport. Excluding trans women, apparently, is necessary for the safety of women and girls.
I was a sporty girl. I wasn't exceptional at any particular sport, but a height advantage (I was taller than most of my classmates from about the age of nine), generally good spatial awareness, and a decent ability to follow instructions and pick up rules quickly made me a competent B-team player in most of the sports I tried: and I liked sports, so I tried most of them. That brought me into contact with a whole load of coaches.
Let's talk about three of them. I'm going to call them Pat, Alex, and Mr S.
Pat taught swimming at my secondary school.
Alex coached the rowing team at my secondary school.
Mr S. was another rowing coach, working for a club we sometimes competed against. Alex and Mr S. also coached elite junior teams in the summer, along with several other school coaches, Some of my teammates were selected for those teams (not me. I remained a B-team player my whole adolescence): some ended up in boats coached by Alex, some by other coaches.
Once a week, starting from year seven, Pat herded my class of girls (it was a girls' school) into the changing rooms to get changed into their swimsuits.
By the summer term, the rowing teams for the junior European and World championships had already been selected, but we were still racing as a school team to finish out the season. We'd sit in the minibus (rowing competitions involved a lot of sitting in minibuses between heats), eating carbohydrates, pointing out who was on which team, and gossiping about their chances.
At one of these competitions, I was sitting in the minibus with Alex and another girl, H. Alex was in the front, doing something with paperwork, and not really listening to us talk. H pointed out a man walking past. That's Mr. S, she said. He's coaching some of the elite teams this summer. Not ones that any of us are in. Which is good, she said, because I've heard he's kind of creepy with the girls he coaches.
Once we were all in the swimming pool changing rooms, Pat...stayed. Sitting on a bench at the side of the classroom, watching as we changed. Watching us take off our uniforms and put on swimsuits. It's been more than 20 years, and I could still draw you the layout of the changing room, and show you exactly where Pat sat and watched.
Alex was listening, it turns out. I can also remember exactly what Alex said to H and me in the minibus that afternoon. Mr S. isn't coaching any of you, Alex said, because I put my foot down and said I didn't want him coaching any of my girls. Because he's creepy? H asked. Yes, Alex said, and I don't want him around any of you.
This was in the late 90s and early 00s in the UK. There are better laws and policies safeguarding children now. I think—I hope—it would be harder for people like Pat and Mr S. to slip through the net. To abuse their positions as adults working in children's sports, to invade their privacy and make them feel like objects.
Mr S. was a cis man, perhaps in his 40s then. I never actually spoke to him. Thanks to Alex, I never had to.
Pat was a cis woman in her 50s. Thanks to her, I spent years avoiding swimming as an activity, as well as avoiding changing rooms. I'm still not a strong swimmer.
Alex was a cis man in his early 20s: at most seven or eight years older than the girls he was coaching. He had maybe two or three years of coaching experience at that point, and was probably 20 years younger than Mr S. I don't know how much career capital he had at the time, or how much he had to argue to keep us away from Mr S. But I know that he did it.
I don't know where Pat is now, nor Mr. S. I don't want to find out. Maybe they're dead. I hope they're no longer anywhere near adolescents.
I do know where 'Alex' is. I doubt he remembers that day in the minibus at all. If he remembers me at all, it's as one of a gaggle of (probably quite annoying) teenagers he used to coach more than 20 years ago. He was a great coach—he led our B-team of teenagers to a large number of victories, including over teams of fully-grown adults—but more than that, he made it clear that predatory, pervy behaviour from coaches wasn't acceptable, and that he was willing to stick his neck out to protect us from it. And so I do remember him, and occasionally I look him up to see where he is now. He's apparently still a great coach, too: he's an Olympic Head Coach for British Rowing.
Trans people aren't a threat to girls in sport. Cis people like Pat and Mr S. are a threat. No-one—cis or trans—should have to put up with ogling, or with their privacy being invaded, in order to play sports. Robust, effective measures to keep predators out of sports are what is needed to keep women and girls safe. Cis and trans women and girls just want to be able to play.